Attachment & Gender Relations
In her article The Opposite of Rape Culture is Nurturance Culture, Nora Samaran shares an emerging understanding of how attachment impacts gender relations in our society, and highlights the need for a new Culture of Nurturance among men. Gender Reconciliation is one powerful starting point for such men's work. From an attachment perspective, one might say "Gender Reconciliation creates a temporary environment where women and men can experience secure attachment with one another, then tell each other the truth about their lived experiences, so they can then live their lives in relation to each other in a more securely-attached manner." Men especially can discover a space to grow in healthy vulnerability with other men, and begin to change the culture of hypermasculinity, competition, shame and fear that keep us isolated from one another. They can discover and begin building a Culture of Nurturance in solidarity with other men, and with all genders. Read Nora's article here.
John T. Guy
Counselor, Meditator, Facilitator, Spiritual Activist